4 signs parents raise children properly

The growth of a child is a process of upbringing and nurturing. To know if you are raising children well or not, look at the following 4 signs.

Ukrainian educator, Vasyl Oleksandrovych Sukhomlynsky, once said: "Sometimes, when you look at your child, you will see yourself. When you educate your child, you are also educating yourself and testing your personality. mine".

Thus, children are a reflection of their parents, reflecting their parents' education and moral level. Researchers have summarized 4 signs that a child is raised and grows up healthy.

Children know how to express their true feelings

According to educational experts, parents who know how to accept their children's emotions are the key to a child's healthy development. On the contrary, if parents do not accept the child's true feelings and refuse to listen to them, the child gradually closes in, does not dare to express, does not dare to speak up.

Parents who give their children the opportunity to freely express themselves are appreciated, because long-term repressed emotions are a deep hole in the child's growth path. When a baby's emotions are neglected, they are often self-deprecating, sensitive, and weak. Children are listened to confidently, boldly, always ready to live like a real person. In these children, their EQ is much higher. Research results from the Department of Family and Child Development at the University of Georgia, USA show that emotional intelligence (EQ) determines 80% of a person's happiness and success in life as an adult.

Children have patience

Coc Ailing - a Chinese skier who has just won the Olympic gold medal in 2022 - has made the public admire when he performed successfully and won the gold medal. Before that, she fell during the performance of the competition and received the lowest score on February 5 and 6. Undeterred by failure, on February 8, she surpassed herself and won a gold medal in aerobatic skiing. In an interview, the girl said that her poor performance in the previous two rounds made her feel not very good, but after that, she tried to make the most of her ability and express herself.

According to science, children with a high Adversity Quotient (AQ) - the ability to resist high pressure, when things don't go his way - have a better chance of succeeding than others in life. life.

Children with a high adversity index are often persistent and tenacious. They are able to face setbacks and find new opportunities from them, while children with low adversity have a hard time accepting failure. They gradually become jealous, selfish, easily hurt others or self-destructive.

George S. Patton, the famous American general, said: "The measure of one's success is not how high a person is at the top, but how resilient he is when he falls to the bottom."

Therefore, wise parents do not help their children avoid adversity, but let their children face it and find a way to overcome it on their own.

Children have the ability to empathize

Empathy is the ability to be able to put oneself in another's shoes and understand their situation. When a child empathizes, they learn to love everyone.

Children's lack of empathy is a parent's greatest sadness. Children tend to be indifferent to others and indifferent to their suffering. These children, no matter how good they are, cannot be appreciated for their character. Meanwhile, children with empathy will form good relationships with people, creating "blessings" for themselves.

Professor of Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, USA, Adam M. Grant, said: "The real test in educating your children is not what your children can achieve, but what they will become and become and become. How do you treat others?

Children know how to do housework

Hong Kong actress Thai Thieu Fen - a mother of three children - often shares videos and photos on Weibo, showing that she assigns her children many household chores such as cleaning tables and chairs, choosing food... When a reporter asked She said that teaching children to cook and do housework is also a way to help children practice character training, she said.

A 20-year study at Harvard University found that children who do housework and children who don't have a job ratio of 15:1 and a crime rate of 1:10 as adults. Thus, it can be seen that the positive impact of housework on children is very clear.